Simple Strategies for Raising Extraordinary Children: “The 5 Skills of Listening!”

It’s frustrating when our children don’t seem to listen, isn’t it?

And when they don’t pay attention to what you are saying at home, you have to wonder how much they are missing at school!

In my years of teaching Martial Arts, I’ve learned a 5 step approach to teach the skill of listening. You can easily teach these 5 steps to your child.

1.) The Listening Posture: Teach your child that when it’s time to listen they must sit or stand up straight. Shoulders back, lift the chest a little. Chin high. This alone can double listening retention!

2.) Direct Eye Contact is Essential: Insist on it when you are speaking to your child. She will then be able to focus on the words being said.

3.) Repeat the Message Back to the Speaker When Possible: For example, a child might say, “So Mom, You’d like me to clean up my room and feed the cat before I play on the computer?” This lets the speaker know your child has understood.

4.) Ask Questions: Coach your children to ask respectful questions This shows that they are paying attention, and care about what the other person is saying.

5.) Look for More Information: Especially with older children, train them to ask themselves, “How does the speaker feel about what they are saying? Are they Angry? Bored? Interested? Concerned?